2) I decided NOT to do any birthday parties this year. Hard to believe right? And trust me, the closer it gets to Mattox's birthday in early March, I am feeling MORE and MORE guilty. His birthday is the first Sunday of our Spring Break. He is my only baby to have a birthday during the school year so I'm taking an assortment of cupcakes to his preschool class the Friday before. As much as he just loves attention (insert sarcasm)
But it does hurt me to NOT do a party. I love throwing parties and I love coming up with ideas for them after they tell me what kind of party they want. #itsnotaboutme
3) Just say NO! For some reason this word comes easy to some people. It hurts me to say no to people I know need help or volunteers. Mati Claire's school is awesome and its because of parent support and help. This year I was Homeroom mom for Mati Claire and Mattox and PTO Fundraiser Chair = too much for me! As much as it pains me, I am going to have to say NO to a few things next year when it comes to school (for me, not the kids). Mati Claire will be changing schools next year, so it will be a good time to pullback before Mattox gets there.
4) "This hurts me more than it hurts you." Have you said that to your child yet? I said it the first time I ever spanked Mati Claire about 4 years ago. Lately, I feel like all I do is yell, scream, and say things I shouldn't to my kids. In my defense, it is usually because they are slow as molasses and we are always late. I become "Unglued" (awesome book if you haven't read it). I recently had a conversation with a person I had just met and they were comparing my kids to someone else's kids. She said, "Yeah, [insert name] is so nice to her kids… but your kids are the opposite… you must be the mean mommy." There you have it. A total stranger telling me I was a mean mom.
I felt about |this big|.
Of course the next day I had to ask Mati Claire and Mattox what they thought of my parenting skills to which MC replied "You're the best mommy ever!" Isn't that something??? She also added "You have your bad days… but so do I." I'll be working on improving my bad days. The next day we discussed how "Daddy is nocturnal." interesting stuff.
So that's sort of my unofficial New Years Resolution list: no birthday parties, become a nicer mom but still be mom, less commitments that take time away from family, and find the fountain of youth! ;)